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Episode 3Four days later
Staring at my reflection in the full length dressing mirror, I smile sheepishly. Oh! What a wonderful morning, a morning that has indeed come with joy.
My eyes rove over my reflection in the mirror and I have to admit I love what I see.
The night I told him about the pregnancy was an emotional night. He stared at me in shock when I first broke the news to him, he didn’t blink nor utter any word, the next instant he burst into tears and knelt before me.
I was flagger basted, that obviously wasn’t the reaction I was expecting. He wrapped his arms around my waist and apologized earnestly. I couldn’t resist asking him the question that has been on my mind since that awful night.
Why did you rape me? I asked him He bowed his head in shame and couldn’t meet my eyes…he was quiet for a while that I thought he had fallen asleep. He gave a shuddery sigh before speaking, without looking at me.
“I know you won’t believe me but I have never raped a lady before” he began, in his accent that I love so much. “I don’t know what came over me that night and I just knew I had to make you mine.” He finished.
“Remember when you told me that the only man to sleep with you would be your husband?” he asked me, I nodded slowly, I didn’t think he would remember the conversation we had in our early relationship days.
“I was scared you would turn me down when I ask you to marry me” he said softly, I placed my left hand on his shoulder, willing him to look at me. “I want this baby, Deola” he said, I smiled when I heard his pronunciation of my name, Di-oh-la. He kissed my stomach and I couldn’t help but feel touched.
Staring at my reflection while I recall that night, made me smile. There has been in a change in him after that night, he has become the man I fell in love with. Oh! I feel like his wife now.
He has been attentive to me, even taking time out of his busy schedule to have lunch with me at my office. Last night, he confided that he hopes the baby is a girl, a baby girl that would look just like me. I giggled at his flattery.
Our marriage really began after that night…I smiled as I turned away from the mirror and walked across the room to turn off the air conditioner.
I heard the blast of the car honk and exclaimed. He had been waiting for me in the car. I hurriedly turned off the light switch, picked up my hand bag and walked out of the bedroom, closing the door behind me.
I realized the rain was drizzling as soon as I walked out the front door, I walked hurriedly to the car park and got into his car. He turned his attention away from his iPad and gave me a cold stare. I smiled in return, hoping to ease the tension.
It all happened in a daze, he lifted his left hand and gave me a slap across my cheek.
I stared at him in shock, ‘You kept me waiting’ was all he said, before he reversed out of the car park and drove out of the gate.
Written by: Okusun Mercy
The words: beauty and beautiful are no strange words to the human race, I mean they’ve been used since as far back as man came into existence.
Remember when God looked at all he had made and said everything was beautiful? Yeah you do. I really don’t have issues with the word itself but the way it’s being used nowadays is quite interesting.
I want you to look around you as you read and see how many people are beautiful, its hard to really judge right? You probably wanna know why? Well its because the word has no essence on it’s own.
I mean it’s defined along theborders of various yardsticks, most of which are irredeemably subjective. Let me refresh your memory a little bit.
You must have heard, times without number, this cliché ” beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.” Alright, here’s the thing, when a guy comes over and tells you “you are beautiful”, how do you know that you and him use the word the same way? Think about it.
According to Ludwig Wittgenstein in his work(scholarly paper) “The Language Game”, where he argues that language is like a game whose rules one must master before effective use can be achieved, the real meaning of a word is in the mind of its user, (there we go) so the problem of definition is engendered right there.
I once stumbled on a poem that reads ” you are beautiful as the stars in heaven” (Really?) Okay, but we need to analyse this. I know, I know what you are about to say ” it’s a poem”, “nature is beautiful”, (long face activated) bla bla bla.
I get that but what if the reader is not a fan of stars, what if it’s tornado instead that appeals to him or her that would mean that they (writer & reader)are not on the same wave-length.
Let’s consider another vantage point on the same issue. Life is marked by time (think of centuries) and each period (generation) has it’s own ideology that shapes it’s world view.
The way fashion in the 16th and 18th centuries is different from what is obtainable in the 21st century. So also, the way beauty was defined back then is not the way we see it now.
These concepts are in a constant state of flux. There was a time when the whole tall dark and handsome (TDH fever) gripped ladies and it was chick for them. At a time it was all about abs (Six pack fever).
These yardsticks have been used by women as a standard for judging men. There was a time when BBW (big bold nd beautiful) was chick though but in this current dispensation, two kinds of women really get a man’s attention; the slim ones and the thick ones. So tell me, is the word beautiful still one and the same??
The quest of finding the meaning and true essence of a word can be an herculean task, so often times than not, we stick with assumptions borne out of ideologies, as strong as the Empire State building, that have guided our lives from the outset.
I’m no expert but trust me, next time someone uses the word on you, you won’t too eager to blush.
Written by: Daodu, Deji Cornelius.
You’re such a wonderful beast,
You either bring trouble or add to my needs.
When I needed you the most, then would you flee,
it had always been love, now I can’t tell what I feel.
You used to be the radiant sun,
You shone for light but now you burn,
and yes you claim to be the Holy one
while we both know you are but a scum.
You said true love was all you felt,
I think you placed me under a spell,
but right now I can boldly tell,
even a voodoo won’t move my pen.
I knew you would never admit your guilt,
whether or not, I still wish you peace
’cause no one could teach me better than you did,
You’ve been such a wonderful beast.
Written by: Oluwadamilola David Yusuf
The freestanding tubs of today are much different than the cast iron clawfoot tubs in the past. In fact, they have become one of the hottest trends in recent years. A freestanding bathtub is not attached to the bathroom wall.
Continue reading to learn more about these amazing tubs.
When it comes to a freestanding bathtub, there are several materials to choose from including enameled steel, metal, and acrylic. Enameled steel bathtubs are very durable and so easy to clean. However, this tub can be cold to the touch. Metal Freestanding bathtubs are beautiful and warmth to a bathroom. However, like the enameled steel choices, it can be cold until the hot water warms the metal. The final option is an acrylic tub. These tubs are lightweight and warmer to the touch than the other material options.
The plumbing is harder to hide and can be more expensive than traditional tubs. However, with proper planning and placement, a freestanding tub can enhance the beauty of your bathroom. In fact, many people consider freestanding bathtubs works of art. They can add a luxurious feel to your bathroom and help to create a spa-like setting in your bathroom.
One of the best freestanding soaking tubs is the classic roll top clawfoot tub. This tub features a rounded end that allows you to sit back and relax. The other end of the tub features a flat end. The double-ended clawfoot tub, on the other hand, is rounded on both ends allowing you to lie back on either end of the bathtub.
For the ultimate in relaxation and luxury consider adding massage and whirlpool capabilities to your freestanding bathtub. These features will take your freestanding bathtub to the next level and give you the ultimate pampering. You will be able to submerge yourself in gentle moving water to help relieve all of your aches and pains. Installing a bathtub with these features will take proper planning as you will need to disguise the motor and electrical components; however, a plumbing specialist can turn this dream into a reality.
Freestanding tubs are one of the hottest bathroom designs. They come in a variety of finishes and offer numerous choices, including whirlpool action and massage. If you would like to turn your ordinary bathroom into a spa setting, a freestanding bathtub is a great choice. This work of art brings a luxurious feel to your bathroom at an affordable price.
Lori Longoria is a writer. An interior designer. An artist. An entertainer. AND a person who genuinely loves interior design and the people in it.
The basic idea of Feng Shui is that your possessions, wellbeing, relationships and finances can be affected by the surrounding and the condition you live in. People have felt instant transformations in their health and wellbeing through Feng Shui which is why a lot of emphasis is being given to it in this day and age.
So if you were thinking about incorporating the principles of Feng Shui in your house then you don’t necessarily have to start off with really complex steps. You could just start with house basics and move your way up. So here are some simple steps to bring good Feng Shui in your house.
1. Clear out clutter
Start off by the simplest step which is to clean up your space. Tidying up your space can actually motivate you to do more for your house in terms of home décor because it is the first step that you just can’t miss. This will instantly bring about positive energy in your house and you will be able to notice it.
2. Make way for light and air
Air and light are two important elements in any house so it is important to let them in. By keeping the windows open and full spectrum lights you will be able to do that. Make use of air purifiers and mirrors to enhance air and light in your home. If you live in a relatively dark neighborhood with limited windows then mirrors can help in brightening up your space if you place them at the right angle.
3. Fix squeaks
It is not uncommon for floors or door hinges to make squeaky sounds as they get old. Some people get so accustomed to the sound that they don’t even pay attention to it but squeaky noises almost feel like your floors or doors are letting out a cry which can have a bad effect on your mood.
4. Use the front door
Plenty of people find it easier to park their car in the garage and use the backdoor. But the door that you take determines where Chi flows into your house from. But from a Feng Shui perspective you will miss out on good opportunities and positive energy if you keep on doing this. So it is better to at least use your front door some days of the week and eventually make a habit of it.
5. Keep the bathroom door closed
Bathrooms are areas of concern for a lot of people because water is directly related to wealth in Feng Shui and water being wasted means wealth flushing away. While water comes back after being drained, you need to be safe anyway so to do that keep your toilet seat cover down and bathroom door closed.
6. Keep the television in your bedroom covered
It’s a common norm these days to keep televisions in rooms and a lot of people do that, which is fine as long as you keep the television covered when you’re not using it because the active energy associated with it can disrupt your sleep.
Author Bio: This article was written by Rida Maqbool. She is an avid writer and a content curator at Alrug.com. You can follow her on Twitter @ridamaqbool02.
The news caster appears again to echo yesterday’s sentiments:
Monies growing wings
Agbada and Ghana-must-go bags become friends
All the while there are no horns men to sound the alarm.
Child: Father, will no one speak up against these crimes?
Father: my child, as you age in life, you start to appreciate the safety in silence.
Child sighs as justice drowns
From a distance,
Mother: my child come for your food.
Written by: Daodu, Deji Cornelius.
Episode 2Three months later
We have been married for over two months now and — I just found out I’m pregnant, the obvious result of the rape.
God, I feel so ashamed. My voyage as a wife has been bumpy and humiliating.
He repulses me now, every time he tries to touch me I feel like throwing up — the baby could be the reason behind it though. I dread telling him about my pregnancy because I don’t know how he would react.
He usually has this spell of black moods, it is ill-advised to go close to him when he is in that mood.
He has been possessive ever since we got married, sometimes, he is charming and attentive. He thinks I would go file a complaint at the police station or human right activist.
I chortled at that thought; who would believe a husband raped his wife? You are shocked too, right?
I burst out in laughter before realizing I was in the conference room with some potential clients, I blinked rapidly and the laughter died down suddenly as I felt curious eyes on me.
This was not the time to unleash my domestic problem, I realized. I cleared my throat and gathered my thoughts into the domestic folder in my head. I smiled at my clients to ease the tension and curiosity buzzing within the conference room.
I know as you read this, you are wondering who I am.
My name is Adeola Janet Aderemi, now Mrs. Adeola Janet Coker. I am married to one of the youngest CEO in the country.
Olanrewaju Coker is his name. Lanre, as he is popularly called, is the only son and child of Senator Coker and Mrs. Coker. I smile wistfully as I reminisce a little about the man I fell in love with.
Lanre is over 6 ft. tall, with alert light brown eyes. He has a pointed nose which suits his long face and naturally red colored bow lips which compliments his fair skin.
His black curly hair gave away his Caucasian descendant. I can’t decide if it was love at first sight, especially with the circumstance.
Most ladies wish to be in my position, I would gladly trade my position as his wife with any lady.
I never wish to relive the incident. The incident which has led to a pregnancy — wanted or unwanted?
I sigh mournfully, the darkness of the incident threatens to swallow me. How do I broach the subject with him?
Would I find him in a cheerful mood tonight? Does he have to know? Or should I keep the secret to myself, but for how long?
I resolve within myself to tell him…he has to know. Tonight.
#Diary of an abused Wife
Written by Okusun Mercy